As if Asian men, who are stereotyped as being passive, nerdy, and under-endowed, needed any more reason to feel insecure about our ability to attract women of any persuasion, here comes this article.
Essentially, the obesity of white women has increased demand for thin Asian women by white men. The article is full of pictures of svelte Asian women (they're working very hard to offend you). But if you can past the over-the-top nature of the article, there is some reality here:
Nowadays, the intermarriage rate is 15% overall, but it is 36% among Asian females. When Caucasian men marry Asian women, the couple is twice as likely to both be college educated and will make on average 20% more money than a white-white couple. [...] Even ten years ago, I found that it was comparatively easy to date an Asian woman or get her to respond to me online. But now, they are becoming more selective. The nation’s white guys have figured out that the biggest risk to a lifetime of marital happiness is a fat wife, and the best mitigating strategy is to marry an Asian.
The author attempts to explain this phenomenon as partly due to Asian women have better personalities:
Some men will argue that it is not just thinness, but better personalities which are driving the increase in white-Asian couples. This may be true, and certainly my own anecdotal experience is that attractive Asian women, especially foreign-born, are more likely to exhibit wifely behavior than pretty American white girls, but without being thin, these Asians would not get much attention.
Perhaps Asian women, especially overseas-born, tend to be more submissive or traditionally feminine? Thus, contrary to what Amy Chua might think, the female triple package is brains, submissiveness, and BEING THIN. The author continues that the biggest reason for white guy-Asian girl coupling is Asian women's disinterest in Asian men:
Another possible explanation is that there are substantial numbers of Asian women who have little to no interest in Asian men. I often hear this from Asian chicks, but I’ve heard the same from black women as well about black men. It takes white guys wanting to date Asian ladies to make this sort of coupling happen. Still, the fact that many Asian women don’t want to date Asian men does propel Asian girls into the white dating sphere.
Ouch.
Asian men, if you didn't have enough reason already, it is time to up your game.
Thanks for the advice. You run a very insightful blog.
ReplyDeleteHey Fred... A friend of mine (Grace) recommended your blog to me... I'm looking forward to seeing more of your writing in the future.
ReplyDeleteI have a question related to this subject... I was wondering if there has been a study done on Asian-American male bachelorhood (specifically 2nd generation) in the church?
SBAG, never seen anything like that, it would be very difficult to study, as least as stand-alone research. You would need to poll men in churches and then break it down by race. I would expect something like that from churchformen.com but doubt it would give a racial component. Mixed race also makes it more complicated and 1st vs. 2nd generation. Professor Tim Tseng is probably the best resource for some commentary on this. Thanks for writing!
DeleteLet me give you some straight talk. Maybe you read Sailer's 'Is Love Colorblind?' but I'll give it to you even straighter.
ReplyDeleteThe way I understand the white/Asian thing is the way I understand the white/black thing. White/black sex is mostly black male and white female for obvious reasons. Blacks are more muscular, macho, bigger-donged, and etc. Even if white girls may not be attracted to black guys, the fact is in many schools, black guys push around and wussify white guys. So, white girls feel it's only natural to go with tougher males. It's biology talking. Of course, many white girls who 'go black' may not marry black, as too many black guys aren't very reliable socially or economically.
But there's a good possibility that even some white chicks who married a white guy 'sowed her wild oates' with Negroes. Thus, even when a white guy marries a white girl, he thinks, 'what if she slept with a Negro? What if she considers me inferior sexually and macho-wise in comparison to the Negro? What if she married me cuz I'm more dependable and not because I'm a real Man?' Guy vanity means guys prefer to be admired for their sexual prowess than for social reliability. Guys would rather be 007 or Mandingo than Eugene Chen or Isaac Schwarz.
Anyway, because of so much white/black jungle fever sex, lots of white guys feel anxious even when they go with a white girl. What if she had sex with lots of Negroes? What if she's into all that jungle fever stuff and might have affairs? So, white guys feel more masculine with Asian women who are smaller and more appreciative of their manhood. While white women might no longer be impressed with white guys and crave black guys, small Asian women will still find white guys manly since white guys are manlier when compared to Asian men.
Of course, it surely didn't matter in the Old World of East Asia. There, everyone was Asian, so Asian women didn't find Asian men short or short-whankered as such was the norm. But we are now living in the global world where everyone watches Hollywood movies and watches American sports. And Asian girls notice in America that Asian men, compared to white and black men, are a bunch of dorks.
Also, we live in a different culture, a pornified one. I'll bet your mother didn't grow up talking about dick, dick, dick with her friends. And she didn't watch stuff like Sex and City where women talk about dick, dick, dick. And she didn't grow up with access to internet porn that shows lots of white and esp black guys with hugeass dongs... while Asian guys have tiny puds.
In this culture, girls from a young age talk about dicks and they see a lot of dicks on the internet.. So, if a girl were to say she has an Asian boyfriend, she will be made to feel inferior or unlucky because she's stuck with some guy with a tiny weenie. She will feel embarrassed to be stuck with a 'short short man'. So, Asian girls don't want such embarrassment. Since Asian girls are so status conscious and sensitive about what others think, they(at least the good looking ones)will go with non-Asian men. That way, they can be like Sonny's wife in THE GODFATHER and brag that she's humped by some major whanker.
All black men or not Madingo all white women is not blond and blue barbe dolls. All asian are not smart that a myth but they are for the most part thin . I ask the question does all men want a thin short wife I do not think so that a myth and they all are not submissive . Just be happy maybe Asians men should buy some of this male sex medicine plenty on the market . I think the whole wod wants to blend.
DeleteI think the whole world want to blend that all .
DeleteIf you not blond and blue or you really white I ask the question.
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ReplyDeleteAlso, there's the aesthetic thing. Asians like western looks. Indeed, if Asian men were as popular as Asian girls, I'll bet many will prefer to marry white chicks than yellow ones. After all, Japanese anime, some of which is porny, is filled with big eyed, pointy nosed, and blonde white characters. And Asian women get plastic surgery by the bushel to look western. So, Asian women don't want to have 'chinky-looking' babies. They want Eurasian babies with some western features.
Prior to globalism, Asians only knew Asians; also traditionally, Asian men and Asian women got to know each other socially before sexually.
But with globalism, Asians borrowed and accepted so much from the non-Asian world that were superior. So, Asians adopted western dress, western guns, western transportation. Well, same goes for sex. Sex is a form of marketing and buying and selling. And Asian women have something to sell but Asian men don't. So, Asian men lose out in the globalized sexual market place.
Even so, as Asian power/numbers won't ever amount to much in the West, it doesn't really matter in America, does it?
Asian power really matters in Asia itself, and as Asia is mostly Asian, Asian men will still have Asian women over there. But then, the Asian world seem to have a kind of whore mentality. Japan is whorehouse to US GIs. South Korea is too. But Philippines and Thailand really take the cake. Asia parades itself as a giant whorehouse in the world. But you can't blame the West for that.
AOL, I love your straight talk. I also adored Sailer's article and I will feature it in a post soon. I would agree with many of your general principles but there are many other factors at play. One is immigration and the formation of ethnic enclaves. You date and marry who you're exposed to. Most Asians in the bay area grow up around other Asians. There's been a recent documented trend of an uptick in Asians marrying other Asians. In fact the rate of interracial marriage among Asians has actually declined somewhat since Sailer wrote the article in 1997. So there's more than biology and female preference for Western looks. I would also note that Eastern Europe and South America is renown for sex tourism, not just Asia.
DeleteWhat about black and brown maybe they want whites the most some Asian women are very brown in complexions . All races want to blend men yes but it own the increase in all races,colors and nationalities even among the females they are getting on the band wagon to .
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