The Gift of Narcissism

Please don't take this poem the wrong way

But narcissism is a gift when you're a leader

A scoop of self-consuming tendencies

Can take your organization to the next level

No more worrying about what other people think

No need to listen to and receive feedback

No more second-guessing yourself

Every decision you make is right and good

You'll sleep well at night knowing

It's always someone else's fault and never yours

No more anxiety about the future or the past

Because you own tomorrow as well as yesterday and today

Rules and regulations are for other people

Never forget that you’re the exception

If you break a rule that might be meant for you

You can always pretend you didn’t know

Willful ignorance and good intentions

Can justify any of your actions

You’re the hammer; everyone else is a nail

Build that wall and pound away

What’s good for you is good for everyone else

That’s the core belief of a self-focused person

Never deviate from that narrative

It makes the world so much simpler

Apostle Paul was kinda full of himself

And he wrote most of the New Testament

Argued God not man spoke directly to him

But his story in Acts begs to differ

Paul bragged he never imposed on anyone

Yet no one doubts his rhetoric was imposing

Good thing God gave him a thorn

Otherwise he would have been completely insufferable

Let face it - ego moves the needle

Extreme people do extreme things

Don't hate the player, hate the game

And everyone knows nice guys finish last

So if you’re sick and tired of losing

Stop the self-pity and imposter syndrome

You have always belonged

You are God’s gift to the world

A little dose of narcissism can go a long way

Just be careful how much you use

Because it’s an addictive chemical

And remember it’s lonely at the top

The world needs to stop hating on narcissists

They need you on their team if they want to win

Stop feeling guilty when you run someone over

Let someone else count the bodies behind the bus

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