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Connection is risky

I really need something RIGHT NOW. I want to feel good at this VERY MOMENT. I am going to go crazy unless I experience some kind of RELEASE or ESCAPE.

You do need something Fred, and you deserve much better than an instant fix. You want the feeling of negativity and inadequacy to disappear instantly but you know it doesn’t work like that. You need lasting gratification more than the instant stuff. Lasting gratification is not guaranteed – its risky but its so worth pursuing. To really connect with someone else and connect with yourself. Your feeling of despair is not the most important thing. Now is not the only thing. The now will pass. Connection is risky but it is worth the cost and worth the wait.

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